How I Still Show Up for Clients on Days I Can Barely Show Up for Myself

Being an esthetician is one of the most rewarding careers—helping others feel confident in their skin, creating a calming environment, and building strong client relationships. But what happens when you’re the one struggling behind the scenes?

As a licensed esthetician and empath who has lived with generalized anxiety disorder and periods of depression, I know what it feels like to show up for others when you’re barely holding it together yourself.

In this blog, I want to speak directly to beauty professionals, skincare therapists, and estheticians who are dealing with anxiety, depression, or emotional burnout—because you’re not alone.

Yes, You Can Be an Esthetician with Anxiety

Many aspiring estheticians worry they’re “too anxious” or “too emotional” for this field. The truth is—your sensitivity can actually be your strength. Clients often seek connection, trust, and empathy—and those of us who feel deeply are incredibly attuned to that need.

But here’s what I had to learn early on:
Confidence doesn’t come first. It’s something you build.

I used to “fake” confidence in the beginning—speaking clearly during consultations, standing behind my knowledge, and creating a professional atmosphere, even on days when I felt like I was spiraling inside.

But something incredible happened…

Clients began to trust me.

And that trust helped me trust myself.

Over time, that “faked” confidence became real

Coping with Depression While Working in Skincare

Depression can feel heavy, isolating, and at times, paralyzing. And when you’re in a field that revolves around taking care of others, it can feel impossible to give when your own cup is empty.

Some days, putting on a happy face for clients is the hardest part of the job.

Here’s how I’ve learned to navigate that:

• Make room for softness. On hard days, I treat myself to a favorite drink, a slower pace, or a simple ritual that grounds me.
• Set energetic boundaries. I visualize releasing emotions after each client—literally brushing off anything that doesn’t belong to me.
• Lead with light. I start sessions by asking clients, “What’s something good that’s happened lately?” This creates a positive tone for both of us.
• Forgive yourself. You won’t always be 100%. That doesn’t make you any less skilled, valuable, or worthy.

Being an Empath in the Treatment Room

If you identify as an empath, you likely absorb the energy and emotions of your clients. That’s a beautiful gift—but it can also be draining if you’re not mindful of protecting your own energy.

Here are a few techniques I use to reset between appointments:

• Grounding breathwork or a moment of stillness.
• Smudging or using essential oils between clients.
• Setting intentions for each session (e.g., “This is a safe space for both of us.”)
• Keeping a small crystal or grounding item in your pocket or near your workspace.
• Energetic hygiene is just as important as physical cleanliness in our profession.

💬 Watch the Full Video: My Story + Advice for Anxious Estheticians

👇 I talk about all of this—and more—in this video:
“The Truth About Being an Esthetician with Anxiety & Depression”
How I Still Show Up for Clients on Days I Can Barely Show Up for Myself

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You Are Not Alone in This Industry

Whether you're a student, newly licensed, or a seasoned esthetician silently struggling—you’re not weak, unprofessional, or alone. You’re human.

There’s a misconception that we have to be perfect to be successful in this field. But the truth is, our imperfections and experiences make us better providers.

If you’re reading this and thinking, “This is me…”—I hope you know how strong you already are just by continuing to show up. Even when it’s hard. Especially when it’s hard.

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xo, Ronni Whisner

Esthetician + Mentor 💜